Stress - What We Say is Half the Problem
Everywhere I go, I hear the same unpleasant sentence repeated
over and over again. I think it has to be one of the most
frequently used sentences. What is it? - I am sooooo
The trouble is, how good do you feel when you share that
sentence with people? Does your energy level increase so that
you feel productive and willing to battle the challenges you
face in your day, or does it make you want to curl up and
hibernate in bed?
In my new book, Fast Track Your Success and Happiness, I explain that the emotions we feel at any moment have a direct link with the words we say to ourselves and others. If we are busy sharing the sorrows of our miserable (and stressful) existence it should not be surprising if we continue to feel lousy. What is really crazy though, is when we are actually having a good time, someone asks how we are, we snap to our habitual response of "oh, I am soooo stresssed" and SNAP all of a sudden we are feeling bad and we don't really know why.
As much as you may really believe you are stressed, exclaiming
it to friends, family members and co-workers is simply a bad
habit. One that makes you feel worse immediately, and the only
meagre pleasure that comes from it is receiving someone elses
pity. Not that that lasts long, because before you know it you
have to hear all about why that person is stressed too. Then
once you have both discussed why you are feeling stressed and
feel well and truly flat and demotivated you are no longer in
the frame of mind for solving the initial problem.
So here is an exercise. Decide today, that for the next week,
you will not use the S-word. Banish it from your vocuabulary.
If someone else starts saying the S-word, change the subject.
Surprise them and make them laugh! Do not give in!
You will probably find by the end of the week that you got more
done, felt better whle you were doing it, had better
conversations with people, AND worked out a plan for reducing
the pressure on you in the future.
(C) Copyright Petra Rankin 2005
Petra Rankin used powerful techniques to beat her own long-term
depression. She is now dedicated to teaching others how to be
happier and lead more successful lives. Her first book www.briefbooks.com.au/freebook.htm">Fast Track
Your Success and Happiness is due to be launched in
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